Comments on: Groundhog Day http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598 Every journey has a pitstop. Welcome to mine. Sat, 24 Oct 2009 23:12:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Celeste http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598/comment-page-1#comment-17449 Celeste Thu, 08 Feb 2007 14:39:12 +0000 http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598#comment-17449 I never meant to downplay your parenting role. I was just trying to get at the issue of how changed a woman feels by motherhood. Pregnancy is a lot like reliving puberty--you just never know what your body's going to come up with to deal with next! LOL But after the delivery, it's like your brain is different. A lot has been written about that; it's just a really huge adjustment. I think anything you can work out to keep the three of you together as much as possible is the best thing. In time our little family became like the Three Musketeers. ;o) The flip side is the difficulty of getting much time as a couple especially when you don't have somebody you feel comfy using for a sitter. We have no family in the area and use a daycare during the week...but have never found an evening babysitter. A lot of that is guilt, too, that we are away from DD enough already. You'll find a balance, I know it! Enjoy your baby; new life is just the coolest thing. I never meant to downplay your parenting role. I was just trying to get at the issue of how changed a woman feels by motherhood. Pregnancy is a lot like reliving puberty–you just never know what your body’s going to come up with to deal with next! LOL But after the delivery, it’s like your brain is different. A lot has been written about that; it’s just a really huge adjustment.

I think anything you can work out to keep the three of you together as much as possible is the best thing. In time our little family became like the Three Musketeers. ;o) The flip side is the difficulty of getting much time as a couple especially when you don’t have somebody you feel comfy using for a sitter. We have no family in the area and use a daycare during the week…but have never found an evening babysitter. A lot of that is guilt, too, that we are away from DD enough already.

You’ll find a balance, I know it! Enjoy your baby; new life is just the coolest thing.

]]> By: enrico http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598/comment-page-1#comment-17385 enrico Thu, 08 Feb 2007 01:13:22 +0000 http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598#comment-17385 <b>Celeste</b>: I may not have made it clear, but I never would compare the emotions/reality of being a mother having had a baby inside you, giving birth, all the hormonal changes and the biological drive to care for a newborn, etc. with fatherhood. As far as all that is concerned, I <em>was</em> the waterboy on the sidelines. But now that she's here, interacting with each of us 8 months later, I think that I'm no longer a bench player that can be ignored, that's all I was getting at. She (and now she and the baby) go home at least once or twice a semester anyway for various reasons, so she does get a "break" with family. It's just the terms and timing of the departure that are/were at issue. It's all new territory for me too. Thanks for stopping by! :) <b>Dr. Schwab</b>: I suppose you'll want your referral fee? :P Counseling is hard; I've done it before. It's work when it is going right. Things will calm down scholastically in a few weeks and I'll re-think my options then. In the meantime, things are manageable. Thanks for the well-wishes, as always. Celeste: I may not have made it clear, but I never would compare the emotions/reality of being a mother having had a baby inside you, giving birth, all the hormonal changes and the biological drive to care for a newborn, etc. with fatherhood. As far as all that is concerned, I was the waterboy on the sidelines. But now that she’s here, interacting with each of us 8 months later, I think that I’m no longer a bench player that can be ignored, that’s all I was getting at. She (and now she and the baby) go home at least once or twice a semester anyway for various reasons, so she does get a “break” with family. It’s just the terms and timing of the departure that are/were at issue. It’s all new territory for me too. Thanks for stopping by! :)

Dr. Schwab: I suppose you’ll want your referral fee? :P Counseling is hard; I’ve done it before. It’s work when it is going right. Things will calm down scholastically in a few weeks and I’ll re-think my options then. In the meantime, things are manageable. Thanks for the well-wishes, as always.

]]> By: Sid Schwab http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598/comment-page-1#comment-17378 Sid Schwab Wed, 07 Feb 2007 23:28:54 +0000 http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598#comment-17378 Well, at least I provided a link to a reader for you. Wish there was more I could do. Not that you have time aplenty: but don't try to handle it all yourself. When I was in med school, I went to a counselor for a while, for a romantic crisis that open other sores... It was worth finding the time. Maybe it's not so available where you are. Hang in there Enrico. Well, at least I provided a link to a reader for you. Wish there was more I could do. Not that you have time aplenty: but don’t try to handle it all yourself. When I was in med school, I went to a counselor for a while, for a romantic crisis that open other sores… It was worth finding the time. Maybe it’s not so available where you are. Hang in there Enrico.

]]> By: Celeste http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598/comment-page-1#comment-17247 Celeste Tue, 06 Feb 2007 20:45:37 +0000 http://www.mexicomedstudent.com/2007/02/598#comment-17247 I'm rooting for the two of you. Can I just say one thing? Becoming a mother means feeling some cold slaps of reality in a way that is just different from being a father. I'm not talking about the love, I'm talking about the physical and biochemical and emotional realities of it all. When it's hard, it's really hard. It forges you into somebody else. I really think that there are parallels with going through medical school. The process is painful but you end up being something more than you were when you started. Is there a possibility for her to travel back and forth and/or to have a relative come and stay with her while she is home alone in Mexico with the baby? If she was able to have the next year broken up like that, maybe it would seem more do-able. It's just a thought. Sometimes having a breaks or company to look forward to helps you get through a lot. I enjoy your blog and hope you will always find it's helpful. I followed the link from Surgeonsblog and have enjoyed your writing. I’m rooting for the two of you.

Can I just say one thing? Becoming a mother means feeling some cold slaps of reality in a way that is just different from being a father. I’m not talking about the love, I’m talking about the physical and biochemical and emotional realities of it all. When it’s hard, it’s really hard. It forges you into somebody else. I really think that there are parallels with going through medical school. The process is painful but you end up being something more than you were when you started.

Is there a possibility for her to travel back and forth and/or to have a relative come and stay with her while she is home alone in Mexico with the baby? If she was able to have the next year broken up like that, maybe it would seem more do-able. It’s just a thought. Sometimes having a breaks or company to look forward to helps you get through a lot.

I enjoy your blog and hope you will always find it’s helpful. I followed the link from Surgeonsblog and have enjoyed your writing.

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